A do over sounds exhausting. Once was enough for me. It worked out. I don't want a do over.
I wish people understood they could simply let their sensitivity guide them in parenting and it works out.

I was told to be much more rigid and harsh with my son. By the second kid I was dropping those people out of my life left and right.
Those people included my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, therapists, and religious "leaders". What a bunch of sad losers they all turned out to be.

Everyone who gave me the advice to to be tougher with my child, failed their child and failed me. Then they told me to do the same. WTF.

What a bunch of idiots our society has delivered for experts.
The do over I want is to go back and give everyone of them a swift kick to the shins for stressing me out. I am tired of this culture exploiting everyone and everything and then laying the blame at the exploited's feet.

My son is in his mid 20s now and he is flourishing. He is flourishing because he knows the world is full of self serving jerks and he does not suffer them lightly. He knows which people are worth investing in and which people are not.

Our culture teaches the young to be less capable than they really are. I do the opposite. I do not make them fit in. I let them walk their own path. If they like what they are pursuing they will pursue it. How did we forget something so stupid simple.

Our kids are facing an entirely different life than we did. So I gave them an entirely different childhood than I got. I figured out how they worked and I taught them how to maximize it.

We need to stop trying to make them be average. We need to allow them the space to find where they are exceptional.

I hate what our culture does to the young. I hate all the people who try to tell you how to parent your child so it serves the system and not the child.

You know how to do it. Nature set us up with everything we needed to do it. We just need to follow our internal guide.

To all the young mothers out there, do not listen to the crowd. Listen to the kid. They know their needs. The best thing you can do is protect them from all the lies and exploitation our society tries to do. Help them know themselves. This is the thing that will serve them most as the change in our world increases.

Parenting is not hard. But everything in our culture is set up to make it harder. We are told over and over again we can't trust ourselves. It is the systems that know best. They don't know best.

They are falling apart right now because they never knew best. They system is lecherous. It is only about making you serve them until they have bled you dry.