Manners Are Creative Oppression in Society

In our social relationships, where conformity, politeness, and the maintenance of harmony are often prioritized above all else, creativity — the unified expression of our somatic and cognitive intelligence — is frequently suppressed and denied. This stifling of our full intelligence in our interactions with others not only limits our individual growth and self-expression but also deprives our relationships and communities of the richness and vitality that comes from fully realized human capacities.

One of the most egregious ways in which social norms deny our full intelligence is through the enforcement of rigid roles and expectations. From a young age, we are taught to conform to narrow definitions of acceptable behavior, to suppress our unique quirks and impulses, and to fit into predetermined molds of gender, age, and social status. We learn to play the parts that have been assigned to us, rather than expressing our authentic selves.

This pressure to conform leaves little room for the kind of spontaneous expression, creative exploration, and authentic connection that is essential to the development of deep and meaningful relationships. It sends a clear message that our individuality, our creative impulses, and our embodied wisdom are not valued or welcome in the social sphere.